Listen to your Heart, your intuition, your gut; if something feels “right” go for it; if something feels “wrong”, let go, say No to it.

So many of you have been brought up to think of others first, to the detriment of yourself.

“Be thoughtful of others, be considerate, always help others.”

That has been interpreted as “others come first”, leaving you to become a very poor second, if not last.

In the majority of cases the most thoughtful, considerate and helpful thing you can do is say No.

By all means support them to help them self but stop doing for them, let them learn and do it for themself.

You are a Being not a “doing” and while you are constantly doing for others you cannot truly “BE” yourself.

Constantly saying Yes to others holds you both back.

I appreciate learning to say NO when you have always said Yes is difficult; feel free to ask my support and I will be there for you.

If someone says you are being selfish for saying no. Stop and think. Who is the one who is being selfish? You for wishing to follow your Heart or them for not honouring your choice?

Learn to hear No from others, honour and respect their choice.

Put your thinking cap on, what can you do to help yourself?

What New Opportunities are opening up for you, start to think outside the box and you will start to make things happen for yourself?

What other possibilities are out there for you?

NO can be the greatest gift someone can give you, that you can give someone else.

There is nothing negative about hearing No or saying No. Listen to your Heart and not your head/ego.

You use the term “tough love”, the truth is that this is true love, you love someone enough to encourage them to learn, grow, stand on their own two feet; to live their own life, to have their own experiences and become the truly amazing Being that they are.

In the process you allow the same for yourself.

Think about all of those times you have said YES to others, for them to ask the same thing of you again and again – be honest with how that makes you feel.

• Is there something you would like to do, to experience?
• Is there a hobby you would like to pursue?
• Is there somewhere you would like to go?
• Is there something you would like to learn?
• What is stopping you?

Let go of the “what ifs”, the “oh buts”, fear of what others may think.

When you think about whatever it is, how does it make you Feel?

Listen to those feelings and ask you head/ego to help make it happen, rather than giving you all the reasons why not.

Live your life and let others live theirs. Live a life of experiences and not regrets.

It is time for you to open to the full potential of the amazing Being you are.

Love & Hugs

Curaventurii

On 9^th September, Sara Jane & her guests on Gift of Healing TV shared a Panel Discussion “Empowering Self”, you can watch it Here

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