Via Sara Jane

Love yourself

Take care of yourself

Set Boundaries

This is not being selfish, this is about protecting your energies, keeping you safe and being true to yourself.

Selfishness is when you have no consideration for others, when it is all about you, to the possible detriment of others.

All you are doing, is doing as you should for yourself, when you love and care about you.

As you grow in that love and caring of yourself, you will be able to find more of that within you for others but in a healthy way.

If your insecurities have led you to be a people pleaser, know that this is not healthy for you or all those around you.

In fact, it could almost be a little bit manipulative, you manipulating yourself into being and doing things you wouldn’t necessarily choose to do.

But also, potentially manipulating others, by telling them what you think they should do, what you think they should enjoy and trying to second guess what is right for them, when you’re not a mind reader.

If you wish to support others, ask them what they wish support with.

If others are doing this to you, then stop, say no, say thank you and say to them, if you really wish to help me, this would help me and tell them what is right for you.

It is difficult to come out of people pleasing and for some of you it will be very uncomfortable and it will be a long journey.

Give yourself the love, the patients, the time, to let go of old unwanted behaviours, that no longer serve you any purpose.

Help your mind and your ego to get out of the learned behaviour of “oh, what can I do for others, will they like me, will they love me?”

Help your mind and ego to support your heart choices and stop to worrying about what other people think about you, when if you really think about it, they aren’t.

They are worrying about what is going on in their own lives, not thinking about you.

This is your life to live, to enjoy, to have fun and laughter, and not everyone will agree with how you choose to live it, that is their stuff, not yours.

Always be true to you. Love yourself, care about yourself, set your boundaries and honour your boundaries

Take care, Be safe, Stay well

Namaste Sweet Soul

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